Paula… you’ve hit the nail on the head once again! Thank you!

Ever since I was offered the new job, my ambition for my work was rekindled. I feel passion for my job once again!

I got a job offer back in ‘03 and gave notice… this was the first time my present employer offered the promotion. I took it and basically felt immediate despair after taking the promotion. I regret that decision to this day.

Now… this time around… I am once again being offered another promotion after giving notice. Of course, my thought is that if they thought I was deserving of a promotion, why didn’t they just offer it to me instead of offering it when they were faced with the prospect of losing me??

The good news is that today was a great day… the family was looking at new houses and were exciting about the prospect of a new opportunity in a new area. Of course, my wife is a more conservative person and wishes I would make a decision to stick with the “known” than take a chance with the “unknown"… but I firmly believe that the new opportunity will benefit our family in the long run.

She stated that she supports my decision even though she is scared… but I know in my heart that this is the right decision.

I’m sure everything will be fine.  I can understand your wife’s feeling because change is scary.  It sounds like you two have a solid relationship so no matter how it turns out everything will be okay.  I wish you great success in you new position.  You’ll be great.

It’s simple Tim, the bigger the risk the bigger the profit,I am glad that the new job has rekindled your passion for your work!

Thanks for the support, Carrie and Shawn.

I know what I want and need to do but there is a risk involved regardless of the decision I make. Unfortunately, I know that people (relatives, friends, neighbors, etc.) are wondering why I don’t take the promotion… since it would appear to be the safest and easiest route to take… but they are not the ones who have to live with the consequences of the decision.

Karen and I sort of had it out last night because she was clearly frustrated after several days in a row of working around the house to get it ready to sell and I was frustrated that she was telling everyone about the details of the promotion/counteroffer at my current job… including her sister who, after Karen said something to the effect that the move and decision is ultimately my decision and her sister replied “Well, you are a better wife than I am.”

I know that I don’t need to win people over with my decision but ultimately I know that I will be judged by it because the decision impacts the lives of four other people (i.e., wife and 3 daughters).

As far as the new job is concerned, I am having a hard time understanding why all of the sudden that job becomes less of an opportunity when NOTHING about that opportunity has changed… only the opportunity that I have at my present job.

Crap. My boss’ assistant just found out the news and came over to my office with tears streaking down her face. :( Why do I feel like a bungee cord is strapped between me and my current workplace!!

Sorry you are going through a tough transition with your wife, family and co-workers. Hang in there, Tim. You are doing the right thing taking this new job. Please don’t second-guess yourself. Most people will take the “easy” route but you know, deep down, that this move is going to better all of you in the long run. As far as your sister-in-law.... she’s just sticking within the “comfort” zone too. Stick to your guns. Tim. I’ll back you up on this one.

Thanks, Emmi… I am glad to know I have allies with respect to this decision.

By the way, Karen apologized to me this morning and said how happy she was for me.

“Comfort zone"… good phrase Emmi. I find it interesting that a lot of people on MTM tend to NOT stay in their “comfort zone"… I guess that is why they call it “Motivation to Move”.

I’ll back you on this one too.  It’s not like you’re moving across the country, it sounds like the move is fairly local.  Keep looking forward, and keep moving forward.  Present every change as an opportunity and I’m sure your family will come around.  You are too good of a husband and dad for it to work out any other way.  By the way, about being judged, anyone who knows you realizes how much your family means to you.  You would be doing them a huge disservice if you were to stay in a job that made you unhappy.  They benefit by you being the best person you can be. 

Again, remember how things were at your current job before you gave notice to leave.  That may be different for now, but underneath, things would go back to the way they were if you chose to stay.

Thanks so much Paula… you’re right in that we will only be about 1 hour, 15 minutes away from our current friends, about 15 minutes CLOSER to our hometown, and our youngest daughter will actually still be able to participate in the same dance class next year where she will get to do her solo for the competition team.

As I also stated to others, it’s also not like I am starting a new business, changing careers, going back to school, etc. Those things would be an even greater adjustment for the family.

I also agree that the problems with the job will resurface if I had decided to stay… and they would actually be worse since I would be assuming more responsibility with the new promotion.

I really appreciate and value your feedback, Paula.

Now, I simply need to stop trying to justify my decision and move forward.

Tim,
I will back you up as well in your decision.  You don’t need to justify your decision anymore, time to move forward.  I am happy to see your wife giving you the backing.  As far as other people in your family, try not to listen, I know it can be easier said then done.  Stick to your guns and keep pressing forward.  Sometimes change is hard to do, but looks like you have that handled fine.  Good luck on your new advancement.

Scooby

Sorry, everyone that I have been M.I.A.!!

I am in a period of transition right now which has resulted in a couple of pounds of weight gain (from 209 to 211 over the past three weeks). Phooey.

I started my new job last week which requires an average commute of 1 hour, 45 minutes one way! (Welcome to Chicago!) Nevertheless, I am really lovin’ my new job! I am working for a much larger company with a lot of marketing dollars behind their products, which makes my job a lot easier. The people here have really made me feel welcome and the leaders of the department have greeted me with open arms! Needless to say, I know I have made the right decision and am truly grateful for this opportunity!

I hope everyone is going well and continue to be focused on a healthy lifestyle. I miss you guys and think about you and the forum all of the time.

Once we move closer to my new job… I am sure I will be able to check in more regularly.

Take care and I would like to express my gratitude to all of you for keeping me motivated and focused!

Tim,

Congratulations on the new job.  I am glad it is all you hoped.  To bad about the long commute.

Glad to hear all is well Tim, glad your lovin’ your new job!

Well, at least you have a good reason to be gone, we do miss you. I’m thrilled that you love your job, that makes life so much better. You’ll take those pounds off again, it just takes a little bit to adjust to a new routine, don’t worry too much. I know it takes me about 2 weeks into any new life routine before I feel even slightly like myself again. Just remember to me more gooder than badder, and you’ll be fine.

Bree

Tim,
I am so glad to hear that you really enjoy your job a lot!!!  Sorry to hear about the commute, I do understand, not fun at all!!!  Hopefully once the move is settled you will have a better commute.  Don’t worry you will take that weight off in no time at all!!  Keep us posted when you have the chance. 

Scooby

So good to hear from you, Tim. Glad your new job is going well. Check in when you can!